Walking the Sidewalk

From a skyward Seattle hotel room, I watch strangers walk in the rain, past a McDonalds drive-through painted into the parking lot like a toy playset.  The gray and drizzly afternoon is filled with people going about their business. They move on, oblivious to the cartoon duck overlooking the “Duck Rides” touring company, an old relic now penned in by modern high rise buildings and greyish-green hills beyond.  People on the way home from work, looking neither left nor right, not knowing who they walk amongst, stepping unconsciously from one block to the next.

They don’t know she is about to hear her name called and walk the stage, shake a hand and receive her college diploma.  Having lost count of coffee shop laptop days, craigslist mini-fridges, professors admired and roommate changes, we all fly in to celebrate an adult, born through mystery and grown in beauty.

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And they just keep on walking by, cell phone in hand, work day frustrations lingering on their faces.

They don’t know that I just watched her from elevated sun-baked bleachers in California, bumping around a beach ball with other high school graduates down on the field.  Finding her smile amidst the crowd, snapping memories with a giant sunflower in hand and friends on each side.  Yearbook and grades and babysitting and youth group camps behind:  anticipating her college years with only the slightest inkling of what they might be.

Down on the sidewalk now, walking through puddles.  I walk amongst them as sidewalk trees find their strength: spring’s fragile buds replaced by broad green hands, sinews threaded deep into their branches, imparting the confidence of summer’s growth.

They don’t see her nervous face, dressing up for the most frugal 8th grade graduation a school could give – folded chairs in the Junior High courtyard, exclusively theirs while the 7th graders peer out the windows of classroom cages.  Sweaty kids and would-be jocks, huddled girls with shoulders hunched and arms folded, wishing their parents would put away cameras and get back home already, where parents belong.

And the faces march on in the early June rain, numb to the significance. Waiting at a crosswalk for the light to turn, to step off the curb, for life to start; barely awake to the prominence of the day.

Seattle_Graduation_4638They don’t remember her elementary school years, celebrated in an afternoon ceremony to the sounds of overly empowering R. Kelly songs (“I believe I can fly”) through a sound system no better than an old car stereo.  Sensing freedom under an archway of balloons – the only expense not spared – and volunteered cookies in a cafeteria filled with 6th graders so tall they couldn’t possibly get bigger.  Amidst hand-cut, drooping flowers she thanked teachers, generously endeared to her earnestness and big ideas.

Blinking the rain away, wiping the glasses to see anything, I’m closer to them now.  Catching up and tapping their shoulder, walking nearly astride, trying to catch their attention.

They didn’t leave work early for her pre-school graduation, tiny hands holding big ideas, leading us back into the classroom to see her watercolor paintings and construction paper art.  They weren’t positive about the potential of this one, the one who would go on to get a Bachelor of Arts in Art.  The one who thrived under constraints that – unlike abundance – forced creativity.

The one who thrived under constraints that – unlike abundance – forced creativity.

Passing faces, they don’t pause to take it in, but I’m now in lock step with them.  Their eyes seem to look up, catching her approach.  They’ve been walking the sidewalk so long, without pausing, without stopping to commemorate the blocks behind.

Appearing through the medicated Seattle weather that flattens everything to drizzly blah, here she comes now, sunlight in her face, feeling it all, living the highs and lows of a Michigan meteorologist.  A transformed woman growing deeper into the best parts of her soil.

We must change –  that C.S. Lewis quote burned into my brain from the college orientation four years earlier: “You cannot go on indefinitely being just an ordinary, decent egg. We must be hatched or go bad.”

“You cannot go on indefinitely being just an ordinary, decent egg. We must be hatched or go bad.”

They didn’t know. They didn’t know, but they walked anyway: taking one step and then the next.

And now here we are, at this corner together.  They see me and my face is theirs.  They awaken and take it in.  They become me as I leave them behind.

She’s arrived.  We’ve arrived.

And we’re still holding hands after all that would separate us.

Tiny hands holding big ideas.

Holding hands so we could, in time, open them up, and let them go.

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9 Replies to “Walking the Sidewalk”

  1. Wow, Dan. Awesome post. So well written. Amazing how moments like this hit us in parenting. Where we see amazing young adults and the expanse of their lives all at the same time.

    Peace, friend.

    RG

    Sent from my iPad

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  2. I really liked this post. It reminded me so much of the wisdom not to judge people because we just don’t know what they’re currently going through in their lives. All the people walking around, and everyone is going through something – perhaps it is pondering a child graduating from college, perhaps there are sadnesses we will never know, or joys we will never understand when we come across people. So, be kind! We are not so far along in our parenting adventure, but we have done a 6th grade graduation recently, and I sure did have lots of flashbacks. Peace and love to all of you!

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  3. “Holding hands so we could, in time, open them up, and let them go.”
    And another generation is letting them go…
    History in the making…again
    LOVE!!!

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  4. This one hits me hard as I think about my own first kiddo just on his way to college. I’m trying to pay attention to my tears as I walk forward. Thanks for helping me process.

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